Tag: women

Posted on in Fitness, personal growth

Writing on my soul

I NEVER realized how deep I wrote on my soul that my happiness would depend on my relationship with my adult children. 

I know this comes from a specific time in my childhood that I desperately needed it and couldn’t get it.  

I blame no one. 

We are all here to heal.  

It’s beginning to make sense that I so deeply waiting years, days, minutes, and even seconds to have a wonderful empty nest life that was still ao filled with my adult children that I would feel like a queen sitting atop my accomplishments of a wonderful family.

But for over two years now that is not how it is.

And I struggle to make sense of why I’m here if not for my children even in adulthood.

How did I get to this point?

How did I get to this thinking pattern that is just making its true presence known?

I was in a Facebook group for empty nesters and had to leave because it was so depressing watching grown women not want to live if their children wanted nothing to do with them.

Let alone Mother’s who jsut couldn’t seem to let the child grow up.

I was prepared for my children to go off and do great things. I really was.

I was excited for them to do better than me!

To grab life and go for a ride.

I couldn’t grow watching so many other women stay in their pool of sadness.

Ugh

I have actively worked through all these feelings looking for a way to be excited about life all by myself.

It doesn’t feel as exciting.

But I don’t want to be that mom that can’t move on.

I even convinced myself that my children have alwyas watched my behaviors so I need to keep making my behaviors strong and growing.

Because they may be in this mode someday and I need to give them something to hold on to.

If mom was able to do it, so can I!

But wow.

I did start working on this early.

I can’t imagine had I not bothered.

I can’t imagine being slapped with this feeling out of nowhere.

The best I have to go on is making sure they value themselves as a human.

If I can’t do that then I give them nothing.

So while it still hurts daily I will continue to move forward with the mindset of I need to be an example.

Being a mom was truly the best.

But what if not all my kids get to be a mom or dad.

Don’t o want them to value themselves anyway?

Ugh

I do. But I am struggling to value myself while feeling so alone.

But I will make it.

Like all other struggles in my life I have learned to take it one day at a time.

Wake up. Find a purpose in this day alone.

And pretty soon the hurt doesn’t hurt so bad.

Mom

I have loved being mom

I need to find me.

Posted on in fueling activity

Women Perform Best in a FED state

feed yourself before being active!

This is likely a hard one for most females. But it’s true. But first, let’s talk about what does “perform” mean?

Specifically, it means to act on purpose. In athletes it means to carry out their physical task which may be a triathlon, it might be cycling, running, or volleyball or whatever sport/activity a person chooses.

It’s true, women perform best in a fed state. This means eating before the event so that the event is performed in a fed state.

Now, what about those women I know who are performing but not performing in an organized event? Do they count in this conversation? YOU BET!

Who am I talking about though?

I’m talking about your average female who stays active on purpose whether it be at the gym, outside, in her home during an online fitness class, that female who shows up regularly for fitness classes at the local YMCA.

I’m also talking about those women who are constantly busy running kids around, cooking, cleaning and managing a well managed household!

YES! That counts as being active and performing as well!

Because what happens when you don’t eat or rest and you just keep going and going all day? You BURN OUT!

If women learn to fuel for their day better, we’d have a lot stronger, more leaner, and clear thinking women!

As it stands now, I see so many unhappy with their bodies, complaining about their mid sections, feeling run down, starving themselves because it MUST be that they’re eating too much!

It’s so hard for me to watch after 17 years. I guess I thought I’d have helped everyone change by now! LOL

The truth is, it’s getting harder for females because not only are they not fully informed how the body actually works, they are being fed commercials galore on medications and starvation diets.

This IS HARD for me to watch! We were not meant to DIET! We were not meant to be on medication! We were not meant to be so confused.

I love that I help women start at step one, what is the overall big picture you want for yourself!

We start there and then I help them learn to fuel for their acitivity! Once they start feeling so strong and energetic, they see a whole new world available to them.

HERE IS THE SCARIEST part of what I do… most women do not even know just how miserable they feel because it’s become so commonplace for themselves and so many other women. It takes kind of tricking them into this space about their bodies and once they feel it, they almost always are hooked on wanting to chase being strong and clear!

I’m going to venture that men also perform better in a fed state but this article is specific to women and let me tell you why I like to point out specifics about women.

Because all the studies that we’ve been hearing about for years regarding fitness and health were done on men! I’m so thankful for Dr. Stacy Sims who has spent her life researching and studying women and their menstrual cycles as well as menopause. She’s been able to share this information and all the differences that a females body has compared to a males body.

For example, after vigorous exercise, womens bodies do not cool down in the same way as mens. If you’d like to read more about the difference between men and womens bodies regarding heat and exercise CLICK HERE to go to her blog!

With all that said, I wish for all women to think about fueling for their activities of the day as opposed to starving themselves during the day just because they find it easier to not eat while staying busy. Use the evening when you’re winding down to avoid eating! You’ll feel so much more clear the next morning!