Is it MENOPAUSE or bad habits?

Women in their 40s often feel like they can keep doing whatever they’ve always done, eating casually, skipping workouts, pushing through life without paying much attention to how their bodies are changing. 

But the truth is, by this stage, the body is quietly shifting.

By the time 50 rolls around, those changes show up as what many call “menopause symptoms.” 

Then, once they cross fully into menopause, many women feel completely lost, frustrated, and even miserable.

But here’s the question no one is really asking: 

Are all these symptoms truly menopause?  Or are they the accumulated effects of years of under-fueling, inactivity and overeating of junk foods in a bag and a box?

I believe a large percentage of what women label as “menopause struggles” are not solely hormonal. 

Instead, they are amplified by decades of not giving the body the right tools: enough protein, balanced carbs, strength training, and consistent movement.

Think about it:

  • A 20-year-old (male or female) can skip meals, live on coffee, and still build some muscle without much thought to nutrition.
  • But once we hit our 30s, the rules begin to change. For both men and women, muscle preservation and metabolism require more intentional fuel.
  • Estrogen does act as a protective buffer for women, especially against inflammation, but when the body has been deprived of the right nutrients for decades, the transition through menopause feels harsher than it needs to.

So, the real question is this: Should we blame menopause—or should we look at our habits leading up to it?

What if many of the symptoms women struggle with weren’t inevitable but instead preventable?

Or at least greatly reduced, with consistent nourishment and strength training before and during menopause?

I’ve had countless women come to me blaming menopause, only to discover their real breakthrough came when they fueled properly and gained more lean muscle mass.

Menopause doesn’t have to feel like the end of control. 

With the right fuel and movement, it can be a season of strength.

Menopause doesn’t get the final say in your health. Your habits, your choices, and your fuel do.

Even one small shift like prioritizing protein at your next meal, can begin changing the way your body responds. The power is still in your hands.

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MENOPAUSE at 51

2018 I stood right in this corner next to my little fridge and wondered WHY am I struggling to lose this weight I gained that I “thought” was from a traumatic event in my life!

I had participated in several Tough Mudders, ran a few 5k races and STILL it wasn’t coming off!

All the way through 2019 when I started having real symptoms that I couldn’t explain.  Doctor performed many tests to see what was going on.  

She thought it sounded like autoimmune issues, diabetes, low this low that.  

Every single test came back  negative.  I was HEALTHY!

EXTREME thirst, dehydration, frustration, irritation, weight gain not getting worse but not getting better in spite of my exercise.

I must not be trying HARD enough!

Not any of that!  

I had only had 1-2 periods in that span of time but we (my doctor was younger than me) had no clue that MENOPAUSE was entering my home!

In 2020, when things weren’t better and I had researched the HELL OUT OF EVERYTHING I asked her about this menopause thing.  

I had no clue!  Never studied it, never watched my mom go through it!  I’d heard women COMPLAIN and that was it!

Doctor ordered some blood tests and sure enough I was considered POSTMENOPAUSAL!

Ok, so I IMMEDIATELY take a course from Dr. Stacy Sims on menopause and athletes.

Learned a TON!

Although I was doing what was mostly right, I wasn’t doing them “enough” and “in the right order”.

2021 I had an accident that began the hardest healing journey for me yet!

Not knowing that from 2018-2020 I was so low on estrogen and had stopped major strength training during covid, I actually helped my body get MORE FRAIL!

I had never once in my life imagined myself weak.  But here I was losing muscle mass like crazy in my legs.

Now I’m injured and losing it faster!

The loss of ESTROGEN threw me for a loop and I had NO clue!

I know better now, have my own program helping other women make better choices and I’m healing myself WITHOUT surgeries!

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Me and my intent

Me, the damaged body Brenda. Me, the solopreneur, climbing my own ladder. Me, the Empty Nest Mom, alone and finding new. Me, the trainer wanting more challenges.

The big question is…what do I want? Where do I really want to go?

I do feel my answers need to include income. But just tonight I realized what if I simply listed what I super duper enjoy and want to be, have and do and if it doesn’t include income why stress?

Haha, because we all need money to live. Many of us want to grow. We want to personally develop ourselves into our own greatness.

I don’t really feel I’m contributing to this world if I don’t grow and develop into more continually.

I despise being sedentary. An occasional day or two for an intense rest but sedentary is not for me!

I want to HEAL. I want to physically get strong. I want to grow my income to 10 times what it is. I want to visit my children at any time I choose.

I want to travel to all the state parks in the US. I want to own a house even though I thought I did not. I want to buy my mom a house.

So many things I want to do. I seem to be in a conundrum of lonliness because finding someone to share my joy and grow with me is scarce!

I hear the journey to the top is very lonely so I must remember that I’m no different than anyone else and this is a journey I am going through.

The amount of growth I’ve experienced since even July of this year is phenomenal. So I must push for my #impossiblegoals and see what life is like on the other side.

I feel the Empty Nest version of me is at a fork in the road, as is the trainer in me. I feel excitement about becoming an entrepreneur over a solopreneur. I feel excitement about creating a online program that will help thousands of people simplify the human basics to weight management and help them start enjoying life as they move toward their happy maintenance!

I feel excitement at visiting my adult children each time I “want” to and I feel excitement thinking about my mom having a place of her own!

I’m super excited to get some of my pain under control and even reversed! I’m ready to become a new person.

I keep hearing that when life feels like a super ball of mess as if it was about to all crumble is exactly when you’re about to have a growth spurt!

So let’s do it!

Let this be my record of intent!