There was a point at which my dad was very near the end. He might wake and look us in the eye or he might nod his head or even try to mouth a word.

Long before this I had convinced myself I was going to come with clean, pure, balanced, calm energy.

I sat on his right side holding his right hand with my left, my elbows resting on my knees, my breathing rate was very calm and I felt an intense freedom on my left side.  

For some time now, I’ve thought it was because I had better control on my left side and that I was too “right” dominant to control my right side.  

I felt as if someone had cinched up a handful of threads on my right seam and caused my entire right side to “cinch” up!

All this time, I have worked mentally to fix this in my brain.  The more I’ve learned (it’s a TON) and the more I’ve experienced with healing my right hip, the more I understand about the human right dominant experience and our tendencies. I have come to realize what was really happening with my sensations during my fathers passing.

I was actually feeling my body at a rest it’s never experienced before.

The cinched feeling around my right wrist was the after effects of spending 50 years with tight tendons and fascia around my wrist.

The rope like pull I felt from the right occiput down through the right trap and into the rear to mid shoulder joint, was the residual effect of tight neck and shoulders from a habit of carrying stress in my neck and shoulders.

It wasn’t that I “couldn’t” relax, I WAS relaxed and fully relaxed.  It was simply that the right side of my body was worn like an OLD PAIR of shoes because of my habitual tendencies.  My left side felt like a barely worn NEW PAIR of shoes!

Old, used, rugged and frayed small and large ropes resided in the place of medial and lateral tendons up and down my neck, shoulder, arm and even into the hip and knee.

All this time I thought I couldn’t truly relax, it was.  I was simply feeling the EFFECTS of a lifetime of HARD RIGHT dominance.

While I know I can build the strength back up, and even gain better mobility on the right side of my body, I will always have more damage on the right than the left.

If I can help others become more aware of their own dominance, I believe I can help the framework of their body stay stronger longer.

One thing I preach to my clients on a regular basis, is to do things with the opposite side as often as possible!

Whether it be to hold a door open with the opposite foot, or to use the opposite hand to unlock a door, OR brush your teeth with the opposite hand!